This is so true. Makes me sick but at the same time, happy that I am not alone. Even my own (former adoptive father) said this at a deposition he gave for my ex-husband. And when he happily testified in court against me — That he felt my daughter would be better off with my ex who had recently remarried (because he got some woman he knew for 5 months pregnant) because now there was a mother and father in the home and other kids which is better than a single mom. Can you believe someone would even think that way much less say it??? I thought that was the most hateful, back woods thing I ever heard. SO I am being punished because I was too busy raising our daughter alone for the past 12 years with NO help while the ex went out impregnating strangers and living with multiple women and so now he is the better parent? The past 12 years with me means nothing? It is better to live with an abusive, lying, controlling father who harasses the mother non-stop and who has not been there for his child because he is now newly re-married? While the single mom who has sacrificed dating, better jobs, higher education so she could raise the child alone is now worthless and can be tossed out with the trash now that the father is READY to be a father and family man and the single mom is not needed anymore? What time are we living in? Unreal. Even in court when the Judge asked me if I didn’t think the fact that my daughter “now” gets along with her new step-sister (as they did not before) was important too and I said “Excuse me, but I don’t feel a step-sister trumps a mother of 12 years”. Seriously?! The whole thing floors me to be frank. I feel like I am in the Twilight Zone!!!!!