Gaslighting explains why a child would align with an abusive parent versus a loving parent. Especially when the child is under the total control of the abusive parent. People that gaslight you make you feel like YOU are the crazy one. They can be a parent, a spouse, a girlfriend or boyfriend. People that gaslight others are abusers. Abusive parental alienators often use “gaslighting” tactics on their innocent children and on the loving targeted parent.