Interestingly, I found that many of them also applied to me as a targeted parent of a severely ALIENATED child. In particular, this one, number 8.
8. Don’t say: “It’s such a burden to have to drive my kids to soccer practice and ballet classes every day!” or “My kids are talking so much they’re driving me crazy!”
Please don’t complain about all of the “normal” things that bother you as the parent of a typical child — at least not in front of parents who have children on the spectrum. Most parents of children with autism dream about driving their kids to soccer or ballet, and parents of the 25 percent of non-verbal children on the spectrum dream about their children speaking one day. Be aware of and sensitive to their needs.
It is so applicable to us target parents who would give anything just to be able to drive our child to school or dance class just one more time.
Numbers 3, 4,6 and 9 also similarly apply. IE: GOD has a reason, just ask for a new Judge, just appeal it, just focus on YOU or the best … “don’t worry … when she turns 18” ….. Target parents will understand.
These are things we have all thought of a million times over already. You can’t just ASK for a new Judge and even if you did, 99.5% chance your request will be denied in 5 minutes flat at a cost of around $1000. Does GOD always have a reason? Or do bad things just happen to good people sometimes? It is hard to always keep the faith on this journey of GRIEF over the LOSS of your child. Yes, it is a very real loss. Yes, thank you, I would love to appeal it. If you can just lend me the $40,000 that I will need to find and hire an appellant lawyer within 30 days and have him/her prepare the appeal very quickly. You see, I already spent $25,000 on the regular court stuff and am out of funds. Money = Justice in family courts. Yes, I think focusing on ME will help. Then I surely won’t notice my daughter’s complete and total absence (overnight) from my life anymore and will probably start sleeping much better too. Maybe the nightmares will even stop if I can just get that manicure and go shopping for a little retail therapy.
Last but not least …… I am so happy to know that when my daughter turns 18, she will wake up that morning and say “What the HELL is going on … I am packing my suitcase right now and heading back to mom’s house”. This makes knowing that I have already lost 2 full years of my daughter’s life for NO valid “legal” reason AND that I will continue to lose at least another 5 years of her life SOOO much easier on me. Because we all know missing 7 years of your daughter’s childhood can easily be replaced once she turns 18 years old. Would any parent be OK with that trade?!
FYI, they do not just snap out of it at 18. Did Jaycee Dugard wake up at 18 and leave her kidnapper and rapists backyard (where she was living in tents with their 2 daughters)? NO. She did not. She was kidnapped at the same age my daughter was – 11 years old. Although she was kidnapped by a stranger and my daughter was kidnapped by her father. Jaycee did not leave her kidnapper and rapists house until the police recovered her at age 28!!!! She was frequently out in public and had the ability to go for help but she never did. This is the psychology of Stockholm Syndrome and Trauma Bonding. Kids do not just “snap out” of this kind of control and domination after a period of years. It changes their THINKING process and their truth and their reality!!!! http://www.pollyklaas.org/enews-archive/2011-enews/jaycee-dugard-no-more.html?gclid=CMLkk8-f7b0CFWxp7Aod5VgAOw
Parental Alienation and Parental Kidnapping are ABUSIVE. Judges, other related professionals and the public in general need to be educated as to the seriousness of this issue and the pervasive nature of this cruel and manipulative form of child abuse. This abusive behavior is being allowed to run rampant in family courts all over the world. Family courts MUST be reformed. Our children must be protected from this kind of abuse. They will have life long issues – self-esteem, confidence, guilt over rejecting a loving parent for NO reason, depression – because of the abuse of parental alienation.