Per Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D.
In my experience an alienating parent needs three things: (1) motive to undermine the child’s relationship with the other parent, (2) access to the child, and (3) skillful use of alienation strategies. These are not the sole purview of either gender.
In my particular case, I believe we can definitely check off all 3 items on this list. (1) Vindictive Ex-Husband who wants to “get me back” for everything he perceives I have “done” to him the past 15 years. Ex-Husband got woman he had been dating for 5 months pregnant and had to marry her. Neither he nor new Step-Mom wanted him to continue paying me child support. (2) Full access to child thanks to a biased Family Court Judge who did not follow Florida case law and made decision based solely on finances which is not legal. A Judge who has already been in the news (ABC Action News published a story on him) for treating women domestic violence victims horribly in the courtroom. Demeaning and embarrassing them just as he has done to me every time I set foot in his courtroom. A Judge who makes you feel re-victimized, bullied and abused every time you are before him. In addition, this Judge showed extreme bias to Ex-Husband who is a Law Enforcement Officer. (3) Ex-Husband is a Veteran Vice and Narcotics Law Enforcement Officer who is highly skilled at lying for a living, interrogating violent criminals, bullying and intimidating. Step-Mom is a recently Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at a Christian Counseling Center and has used her skills to coerce and manipulate my vulnerable daughter. Ex-Husband and Step-Mom took my daughter to Step-Moms Friend, Former Co-Worker / Former Business Partner for so-called “counseling” (aka: brainwashing) right after the parental kidnapping of my daughter. Said Counselor / Friend / Former Co-Worker / Former Business Partner subsequently wrote a letter to the court for her Friend / Former Co-Worker / Former Business Partner / Step-Mom painting me in a bad light even though she refused to allow me to participate in said counseling.