M.I.A.

Just a quick update. I know I have been M.I.A. this month. I have not been blogging much lately. Trial did not go too well. As expected with Judge Nazaratien. It was just another mom-bashing session where only I was grilled to no end and harassed. The ex-husband, as always, sailed thru with not even one question asked of him by the Judge. It was just yet another sideshow in the Circus that is Judge Nazaratien’s “family” courtroom. This man made up his mind from day one. We, of course, ran out of time as always. No closing arguments, no nothing. Some trial that is. Most of my issues were not even addressed. As usual. Judge already asked my ex-husband’s lawyer to draw up an order. Therefore, his mind was made up before he even left the bench. Obviously, he has no plans to review case law or anything else before ruling. Case law which he has been in violation of for the past 2 years. Thinking he would admit his legal error and right his wrong are a joke. His mind was made up in a short hearing in September 2012 and he has never cared what happened to my daughter or me ever since. My ex-husband can lie under oath and alienate me all he wants. He is a police officer and treated with kid gloves by the totally biased and inappropriate Judge Nazaratien. The bias has been sickening. The demeaning manner in which I have been treated for 2 years by Judge Nazaratien has been nothing short of disgusting and appalling. Trust me when I tell you that it is ALL about the money. $$$$$$. I have been trying to pick myself up and put the pieces of my life and heart back together. Not going so well at the moment. I also had a bad fall this week which left me with a trip to the ER and a black eye. I WILL be back. Just need a little time. My prayers go out to all of you. Praying for peace, understanding, clarity, favor, truth, love, and justice for all of us alienated parents and our children.

 

ARE YOU BEING GASLIGHTED???

ARE YOU BEING GASLIGHTED???

 

 

Silence is complicity. Parental Alienation is emotional child abuse and domestic violence (control, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, isolation, bullying, gaslighting, narcissism, hate).

Silence is complicity. Parental Alienation is emotional child abuse and domestic violence (control, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, isolation, bullying, gaslighting, narcissism, hate).

Simple as that!!!!

Parental Alienation. Child Abuse. Domestic Violence. Bullying. Narcissism. Sociopath. Corruption in Family Courts. Biased Judges. Abuse of Power of Discretion.

PARENTAL ALIENATION IS EMOTIONAL CHILD ABUSE

MY DAUGHTER SHOULD NOT GET IN TROUBLE FOR SHOWING ME LOVE. CHILDREN SHOULD NOT HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN THEIR PARENTS.

Wishing a peaceful and stress free day to all of the alienated mom’s out there tomorrow.

Dear Alienated Mom’s

I can’t and won’t wish you a Happy Mother’s Day because I know that it won’t be. It can’t be a happy day when your child is being kept from you unjustly by a spiteful and hateful ex-husband. No-one can or should expect us to be “happy” about this especially on Mother’s Day – a day meant to celebrate moms all over the world. Especially when most of us will probably not see or even hear from our children.

But what I will wish you is a day that is as peaceful and as stress free as possible. For myself, I am just hoping to actually get a few hours of sleep tonight. I have not slept in weeks. Feel like I am coming down with a cold. Probably just run down. Just can’t seem to turn my brain off these days. Parental Alienation is sheer torture for me. I have a very long drive tomorrow – job interview and court stuff to take care of – and I am just so exhausted.

Praying for peace, strength, love, forgiveness, understanding, clarity, compassion, guidance, tenacity, resolve, insight, support, abundance and justice for all of us. Thank you all (alienated moms and dads) for being there. No-one can understand the pain the way we can.

Love,

K

Loving and capable mothers CAN and DO lose their children to Parental Alienation

Loving and capable mothers CAN and DO lose their children to Parental Alienation

Per Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D.

In my experience an alienating parent needs three things: (1) motive to undermine the child’s relationship with the other parent, (2) access to the child, and (3) skillful use of alienation strategies. These are not the sole purview of either gender.

In my particular case, I believe we can definitely check off all 3 items on this list. (1) Vindictive Ex-Husband who wants to “get me back” for everything he perceives I have “done” to him the past 15 years. Ex-Husband got woman he had been dating for 5 months pregnant and had to marry her. Neither he nor new Step-Mom wanted him to continue paying me child support. (2) Full access to child thanks to a biased Family Court Judge who did not follow Florida case law and made decision based solely on finances which is not legal. A Judge who has already been in the news (ABC Action News published a story on him) for treating women domestic violence victims horribly in the courtroom. Demeaning and embarrassing them just as he has done to me every time I set foot in his courtroom. A Judge who makes you feel re-victimized, bullied and abused every time you are before him. In addition, this Judge showed extreme bias to Ex-Husband who is a Law Enforcement Officer. (3) Ex-Husband is a Veteran Vice and Narcotics Law Enforcement Officer who is highly skilled at lying for a living, interrogating violent criminals, bullying and intimidating. Step-Mom is a recently Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at a Christian Counseling Center and has used her skills to coerce and manipulate my vulnerable daughter. Ex-Husband and Step-Mom took my daughter to Step-Moms Friend, Former Co-Worker / Former Business Partner for so-called “counseling” (aka: brainwashing) right after the parental kidnapping of my daughter. Said Counselor / Friend / Former Co-Worker / Former Business Partner subsequently wrote a letter to the court for her Friend / Former Co-Worker / Former Business Partner / Step-Mom painting me in a bad light even though she refused to allow me to participate in said counseling.

 

 

GREAT NEWS!!! WONDERFUL JOB CONNECTICUT!!! FAMILY COURT REFORM IS COMING. JUDGES WILL BE RESTRICTED!!! POOR TRAINING HAS BEEN ACKNOWLEDGED. FAMILY COURT DRIVING PARENTS INTO FINANCIAL RUIN. PRAYING FLORIDA IS NEXT!!!!

GREAT NEWS!!! FAMILY COURT REFORM AND JUDGES RESTRICTED!!! POOR TRAINING ACKNOWLEDGED. DRIVING PARENTS INTO FINANCIAL RUIN. PRAYING FLORIDA IS NEXT!!!!

“On Friday, April 25, 2014, both houses of Connecticut’s legislature unanimously approved a bill that restricts judges in family court matters. Parent who have been unfairly denied access to their children, given restricted access and bankrupted by the court turned out in large numbers to testify in favor of the legislation. The legislation points towards fundamental changes in Connecticut’s family court system.”

 

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Why would you harm your OWN child?

Today my daughter should be proudly being inducted into the 7th grade NJHS (National Junior Honor Society) due to her extremely high GPA in all honors classes. But she won’t because her father and step-mother never bothered to have her do the required essay and turn it in on time. It is obvious that my daughter is not a priority in that home with the step-mothers other 3 kids. If you are too busy to be concerned and involved in her education, then please, I beg you, send her HOME where she belongs. To the mother who raised her for her entire life until you kidnapped her out of school on August 31, 2012. I think, in fact, that was the only time you have ever even been to her school, isn’t it? When you went there to kidnap her? PLEASE send her home to her mother because I care and I have the time to be involved in her education!!! I spoke to the NJHS sponsor who also happens to be her Lang Arts Honors teacher to verify. Thank you Judge Nick Nazaratien, Dr. Jeannine Jones (Apollo Beach Counseling Center), Paul and Connie Mundy and all others who have helped and enabled my ex-husband and his new wife to totally alienate me from every aspect of my daughters life – while permanently and negatively altering every aspect of her life including her education – as I sit here with my hands tied behind my back by a totally flawed family court system. You should all be so proud of yourselves. If my ex-husband had at least listed me as the mother on my daughter’s school records perhaps I could have tried to prevent this. He currently lists the step-mother as the mother. I only just now got access to her education because he finally listed me as an emergency contact on the form. I am sure he will take me off again as soon as the trial is over and he does not have to look good anymore. Parental Alienation is child abuse and a form of domestic violence. Only a vindictive, abusive sociopath would actively and repeatedly keep a daughter from her loving mother to the point of permanently damaging their relationship and harming their OWN child in the process. It makes me so sad for my daughter that she will not be receiving this very special academic honor today. One that she deserves so much. Instead of being inducted into the NJHS this evening, my 13 year old daughter will spend her evening like she does every other evening – homework, sweeping and mopping floors while also caring for the 15 month old baby that her father and step-mother created. From what I understand, she is getting very good at changing diapers.

Things you can do to show an alienated mom that you care on Mother’s Day … and every day.

   

 

As one would imagine, Mother’s Day is one of the hardest days that an alienated mother goes through. Just like her child’s birthday, holidays and other special events that she is unjustly missing. Memories that can never be replaced. Stolen time.

Don’t forget that these mothers are still moms. Being alienated does not take away the bond that they have with their children. It does not make the love that they have for them disappear. If anything, it has only made their love and fierce desire to protect stronger than ever before.

These moms are courageous, strong, warriors. During their darkest times, they manage to fight through the pain and grief. They struggle to literally get up off the floor, wipe their tears and advocate for not only their children but also for other moms and their alienated children too.

 

These moms should never be forgotten. Not on Mother’s Day or any day. This is a pain that no loving mother should ever have to endure.

You can show you care by doing a few of the following things for these moms. On Mother’s Day or any day.

1. Call them or send them a message just to say that you are thinking of  them on this important and special day and that they are loved. Remind them what a great mother they are. Give them examples. They may or may not feel like talking and that is OK. It is the reaching out that matters.

 

2. Send them a card. Or make one!! They are still moms. Remember, they probably won’t be getting a card from their child. Send them a card letting them know they are a wonderful mom and how you admire them for their strength and courage.

 

3. Invite them to Mother’s Day lunch or dinner. Give them the option to think about it and choose whether they feel they are strong enough to go or not. Leave an open invitation with no pressure. Remember, this day brings up a lot of sad emotions for a mother missing her child. She may want to go and she may not. If she is courageous enough to go, don’t leave her out. Acknowledge her as the great mother that she is.

 

4. Send her flowers. Or drop by and surprise her with some. You can pick some pretty flowers for free or get some inexpensive flowers or plants at the local grocery store. A little something beautiful goes a long way for a loving mother missing her child.

 

5. Treat her to breakfast in bed, a manicure or pedicure. Something that she possibly may have gotten from her child if she had been given the opportunity. Chances are, this is something that she would never do for herself. Remember, she is under a great deal of stress that no-one else but her can understand.

 

These are just some thoughts and ideas. You can get as creative as you want. What would be good for one mom may not be good for another depending on her unique situation and feelings. Use your best judgment. Regardless, showing that you love and care can never be wrong. As they say, it is the thought that counts. And, it counts more than you could ever imagine.